Man = "The Head," Woman = "The Heart"—Does This Really Work in Relationships?

I’ve been noticing something in the self-awareness and relationship space—a pattern that feels like one of those classic pendulum swings. Back in the day, relationships were built on the idea that men were the leaders, the ones in charge. Then the pendulum swung the other way, and as women reclaimed their power, some took it to an extreme—flipping the script and treating men with disrespect.

Now, I’m seeing another shift. Men are reclaiming their power again, which is great! However, it’s also bringing back an old belief with a new twist: the idea that men are the head of the family while women are the heart.

At first, this might sound like a beautiful balance, but if we look closer, we can see—it’s still off.

Why This Still Isn’t True Balance

Here’s the thing: when we assign roles like "head" and "heart" to different people in a relationship, we’re still separating ourselves. We’re still giving away parts of our own power. We’re still operating under the belief that leadership has to belong to one person instead of realizing that true leadership starts within.

Last I checked, every human being has a head and a heart. Oh—and let’s not forget the gut, which plays a huge role in relationships too (but that’s often left out of the conversation).

Where did we even get the idea that the head has to lead? The truth is, when our head (logic), heart (emotion), and gut (intuition) are in sync, we are in alignment. And when two whole people—fully in alignment—come together, that’s when real magic happens in a relationship.

When Two Whole People Get Together…

We’ve been conditioned to think that if no one is “in charge,” chaos will follow. But that’s just not true.

The most connected, deeply fulfilling relationships don’t have one leader and one follower. Instead, there’s an ebb and flow—a dance where sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow, and sometimes you just move together, completely in sync. Both are moving to the flow of their own divine rhythm in harmony with each other.

That’s real balance. That’s real partnership. That’s real wholeness.

The Shift Starts Within

Instead of swinging from one extreme to the other, let’s land somewhere deeper—somewhere real. Let’s focus on integrating our own head, heart, and gut so we can lead ourselves first. Because when we’re fully aligned within, our relationships naturally reflect that alignment. No forced roles. No power struggles. Just deep connection, mutual respect, and a relationship that works because both people are whole.

If this resonates with you and you want to dive deeper into relationship wholeness, check out my website: SimplyRelatable. Because at the end of the day, your relationships with others will always mirror the relationship you have with yourself.